Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Sometimes a Mom Just Has to Sit!

Most mom's I know don't sit down a whole lot, unless they are at work, sitting at a desk.  There are times, though, when a mother must just sit.

A mother has been just sitting near my house for the past few weeks. It is a mother bird. She has a nest in the rafters beneath our deck. Periodically, I go around the house and check on her. Each time that I have, she has still been there - - just sitting there.


This photo was taken with a zoom lens, so as not to disturb this mother bird!
She reminds me of myself many years ago in May, when all I could do was sit. I was the mother of a toddler, and pregnant with my second child. One day I began experiencing contractions - ten weeks too early! The doctor determined that while I did not need to be in the hospital, my activity needed to be drastically reduced so my baby would not be born too early. Initially I was on bed-rest with bathroom privileges. After a bit, I was allowed to go up-and-down our flight of stairs one time each day. I still had to refrain from doing any lifting (including our toddler), housework, or standing (except to go to the bathroom, thank goodness!) All I could do was sit.  And sit.  And ... sit.

This mother bird is more prepared than I was. She sits in a nest she built before she laid her eggs.  I had been buying fabric to decorate my nursery the day my contractions began.  In the ten weeks I sat around, I was frustrated that I had not yet "feathered my nest." It was hard to explain to my toddler why I could not be more active with her, although fortunately we still managed to have lots of cuddle time. I felt badly my husband had to take over so many of the tasks I usually did. Being idle for weeks was not something for which I had anticipated or prepared.

The weeks did pass, and we managed. A short while before my due date, with my baby no longer at risk, my activity restrictions were lifted. I got as busy as the bird had been when she built her nest.  I sewed curtains and bedding, and stenciled the nursery walls. I cleaned the house and I played with my daughter.


The sewing and stenciling of this room probably would never have gotten done,
if I hadn't managed to do it before my second baby was born!

My due day came ... and went. The contractions continued, as they had for weeks. Finally, three days late, I gave birth to a wonderfully healthy baby boy. Every day of the past 17 years I have been thankful for those weeks that I just sat.

Sit, mother bird, sit. When your eggs hatch, you will be so glad that you did.


8 comments :

  1. This was so beautiful! Once again we have something in common. I was on "modified" bed rest with my second son, and my older one (2 1/2 at the time) was so mad that I couldn't get off the couch and play with him! I still ended up having T three weeks early, but he was healthy and fine. Great job "sitting" - you're such a good mom!

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    1. There is the same age difference between our kids too! You are a great mom too Lana!!

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  2. I totally agree. Sit, have a cuppa when you feel like one, go to the toilet by yourself, walk out of the door, shop when you need to. Ahh, the things you miss as a mama haha!

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    1. But, oh - the invaluable things you gain ...!

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  3. What a great story, We have a pair of rabbits that have babies and we watch them all the time. Its amazing how nurturing animals can be.

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    1. Baby bunnies - how wonderful! Animals of every type really are amazing.

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  4. We just had a nest of baby birds born on our porch. I loved watching the mother first sit and prepare for her babies then she was so busy feeding them and caring for them. I was sad when their sweet chirping sounds went away as they left the nest. Your story is beautiful and yet another reminder to enjoy the moments.

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    1. Thanks Jennifer. I'm glad you got to enjoy the baby birds!

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