Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Tell Every Woman She IS Enough!

There's been a lot of posts written recently by bloggers who attended the BlogHer '14 blogging conference.  Although I didn't go, I have enjoyed reading the accounts of the event.
What does your mirror tell you?

I recently read a blog post, The Talking Mirror and Self Esteem by Carol Cassara.  In it, she describes watching women at the first exhibit they encountered at the conference.  The exhibit was a “talking mirror.”  In her article, Carol also provided the video link I have included here, and encouraged her readers to watch it.  She even offered a free giveaway to anyone who leaves a comment on her post.


Before I watched the video, my comment on Carol's post would have been, “A mirror that tells me, ‘You are Enough.’ I want one of those!”


I hope you will read Carol's wonderful words about self esteem (click on the link in the paragraph above) AND watch this video, before you read the rest of what I write here.  Don't forget to leave a comment on Carol's blog!





As I viewed the video, I realized I was crying.  I'd be surprised if you didn't shed at least a tear. Most of us can relate to the raw emotions revealed by the women filmed as they interacted with the mirror.  Kudos to whomever organized and facilitated these interactions.  Bravo to the all-female band “The Mrs.” for their empowering song, “I'm Enough.” 


The comment I finally left on Carol's blog post was “... it is true - we are all enough."  


I've changed my mind about wanting to own a talking mirror.  I've realized a real talking mirror isn't a piece of reflective glass that hangs on a wall.  Every one of us is a talking mirror, reflecting opinions to ourselves and to others. There are vocal mirrors around us every day. It is the ones that tell us we are enough that we should listen to. This is the kind of mirror that each of us should strive to be.

We all have the power to change inner voices of self-doubt ... our own and those of others. We need to remember to tell the women in our lives the reasons that we think they are enough. And, whenever we look at ourselves in the mirror, we should decide to say, “I'm Enough.”

So, like the instructions in the video,  --  "SLIDE IT GIRL" ... We are all ENOUGH!


“Tell someone she's enough!   #i'mEnough”


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Monday, August 4, 2014

Blindsided: The Papalo Cure, Part 5

A few weeks ago I began using the Words for Wednesday Challenge from Delores at Under the Porch Light to create a story, The Papalo Cure. Readers commented, requesting to know what happened to Grandpa after Maria got on the bus to South Dakota. I didn't know! The plot of this story is being directed by the weekly Words for Wednesday word prompt!

Using the prompts, I have been adding to the story - and even I am surprised by the turns it has taken.

This week’s chapter can be read without background information, but I recommend reading the proceeding parts of this series first. Start with Part 1: Facing Insurmountable Odds.  A link for each previous chapter is on my FICTION page. This week's challenge words are listed at the end of this chapter and highlighted in bold in the story.
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Image: Rig capable of drilling for either oil or natural gas. (1957)
Photo credit: Bob Cowper

Maria looked across the hospital room at its two other remaining occupants. Mateo appeared worried and he was glaring at her; Cynthia had her arms crossed and looked smug.

Maria sighed.  “Mateo, you have to believe me.  I did trick Grandpa into thinking watercress was papalo, but only because I knew he believed he needed papalo to get better after surgery.  It worked - didn't it?   After he ate some of it he finally signed the surgical consent.”

Oh, it worked, all right”, said Mateo, looking a little crazed.  “If Grandpa bleeds to death during surgery it will be clear that you intended to kill him.  You will have caused his death just as surely as if you had hired a professional marksman.” 

“What?  I had no idea watercress could interfere with clotting! Why are you so convinced I want him dead? I love Grandpa!” Maria's last words sounded choked up, as she began to cry.

“You may love your grandfather, but you clearly love the idea of acquiring a fortune even more,” Cynthia said icily.

Maria inhaled sharply and said, “What are you talking about?  This idea of a paleontologist buying the farm so he can dig up dinosaur skeletons in our cove is crazy.  Mateo, we both used to call Grandpa a spinner of tales, teller of dreams.  You can't really think the story he told us about the Mastodon bones left such an indelible impression upon me that I still believe in it?”

“That was Mateo's original theory, before he hired me,” Cynthia explained. But it didn't take long for me to figure out that although your get-rich scheme sort of involves dinosaurs  - it does so in the form of fossil fuel, not skeletal bones. I found out all about the petroleum and natural gas company to whom you are planning to sell your grandparents farm!”

“The plan you came up with was quite stellar, but you are not going to get away with it,” said Mateo. “You can't sign the final paperwork for the sale, though, as long as you are here. Before you return to Mexico, I will see to it that the deal does not go through, unless Grandma and Grandpa decide they want it to.  Even if they do decide to sell the farm, the payment will certainly not belong to you. How did you get the petroleum company interested in the property anyway - or was it their idea to contact you?”

Suddenly they all realized that Grandma had returned. Maria wondered how long she had been standing in the doorway, and what she had heard.

“Grandma,” Maria cried out. “What did the doctors say, did eating watercress harm Grandpa?”

“The watercress isn't a big deal - they said it probably wouldn't act as a blood thinner, unless he had consumed a lot more and over a longer period of time. They will watch him and give medicine if his blood seems too thin. But - - what did I just hear?  What is all this about a petroleum company?”  asked Grandma.

“Grandma,” said Mateo gently.  “I know you think I have been acting paranoid, but I have been investigating a serious issue that could have devastating consequences.”

He continued, “I am not mentally infirm, nor the imbecile you all believe me to be. In fact, my mental health is much more sound than any of you realize.  I have never been mentally unstable.  Back in my senior year of high school, I allowed you all to think I had a psychiatric illness.  I really just agreed to seeing a psychiatrist so I could get some help with some substance abuse issues I was having at the time.  It was a perfect scenario - Grandpa paid for the visits, the psychiatrist kept my treatment issues confidential, and none of you found out I had been using illegal substances.”

¡Carumba! Good Heavens,” said Grandma loudly.  “Do you still do drugs?”

“Of course not,” said Mateo.  “None at all since I was in treatment.  Grandpa got his money's worth.”

In a softer voice, Grandma said, “If your mind is sound, why would you accuse your sister of wanting to kill Grandpa?  And what were you saying about a petroleum company? What does that have to do with anything?” Grandma made her way to the chair Maria had vacated and sat down, looking thoroughly perplexed.

“Let me explain,” said Cynthia. “Before Mateo last visited the farm, he had received a strange call.  A man was asking for directions to the farm in Mexico, saying he was going out there to do the preliminary survey before the sale.  Mateo assumed he had a wrong number.  But, while Mateo was in Mexico he caught Maria coming back from the cove very early one morning, and she acted so strangely it made him begin to wonder what was going on.” 

“Of course she was acting strangely - she was coming back from meeting her lover in the cove,” interrupted Grandma.

Cynthia ignored Grandma's comment. “That was when Mateo hired me to go to Mexico and investigate,” Cynthia continued. “People in the village informed me that representatives from a company, called PetroNation Oil and Gas, had been asking a lot of questions about the farm.  I got their number, and pretended to be ‘Ms. Bedoya.’ They didn't even question my identity, and revealed they were about to offer a very large sum to purchase the entire property.  The plan, apparently, is to demolish the buildings and drill for oil right where the house and barn currently stand.”

“What?” gasped Maria.  “That is my home!  I would never consent to such a plan.  But - ” She looked baffled.  “What would any of this have to do with my wanting Grandpa to die?”

“I assume,” Mateo said, “that you thought he would interfere with the sale, or keep all the money for himself.  Greed has led to murder more than once.”

Grandma was looking pale.  She appeared blindsided by the plan that had been revealed. Suddenly, though, she looked very angry and stood up.

She said, “Maria, lo siento. I am so sorry this accusation has been made against you.  Mateo, you have to believe her when she says she doesn't know anything about any of this.  I understand how you may have come to these conclusions, but I have just figured out what is going on - and Maria is not responsible.”  

¡Dios mio!” Grandma paused, then continued,  “Now I am feeling tempted to commit a murder.”



What has Grandma figured out?


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This story is totally fictitious and may not contain accurate factual information. I had never even heard of papalo, until I did an Internet search for “indigenous plants of Mexico.” 

The Words for Wednesday Challenge supplied the following word prompts: 


marksman, stellar, blindsided, indelible, crazed, imbecile

and the phrase 


spinner of tales, teller of dreams.




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Saturday, August 2, 2014

Have a wonderful weekend!


BUT


Are you happiest at the end of a productive weekend - or a fun weekend?


Friday, August 1, 2014

Farewell Yahoo Contributor Network - R.I.P.

August 1st

For many years of my life, the first day of August has been a day tinged with a feeling of melancholy.  When I was a child growing up in Canada (where school was in session from September to the end of June), it was the day I would realize my summer holiday was half-over.  Later, being educated as an American, I would mourn the passing of two-thirds of my summer vacation. Upon my graduation from college August 1st lost its significance, becoming just another work day. It remained that way until I had school-aged children who would return to classrooms in the fall, and then the emotion of disappointment began to occur once again.  Today I awoke with a bit of a heavy heart - partly because the end of summer is in sight, but for another reason as well.


Nothing catastrophic, but I feel a little melancholy today.

Rites of Passage

This morning, August 1, 2014, I have my typical urge to clutch the rest of the summer tightly. Soon my son will be spending most of his hours away from home at high school and sports. My daughter will be returning to her life at college in September.  Entering her sophomore year, I am already sensing the shift to that environment becoming more “home” to her than here.  These passages of growing up, although they sadden me, are the progression of life as it should be.


Unexpected and Unfortunate

This morning I am feeling another loss as well.  The links to all of the articles I have had published by Yahoo Contributor Network (YCN), as of this morning, are now dead.  Well, not really dead, the links all now redirect to the “Yahoo! Home page.” All of my content previously published on the Yahoo Voices webpage, however, has been removed from cyberspace - as has that of all of the other Yahoo Voices contributors.


Screenshot from YCN as it used to appear: this publishing platform will be missed my many writers.
I began my writing career on Yahoo Voices.  This platform was where I had my first piece of writing published on the Internet.  I gained confidence in my ability to write from the series of articles I had published by YCN, and the positive feedback and encouragement I received from the YCN writing community.  Courage derived from my YCN experiences led to the acceptance of some of my work by a popular professional nursing journal.  It was my success with YCN that motivated me to begin writing my blog, the most - - of every moment.


Sad News

Most of my writing efforts in recent months have concentrated on this blog, but I did occasionally return to YCN to accept an assignment or publish something there.  On July 2nd, I noticed a post on Facebook, which read:
“Dear Contributors,
You made the past nine years incredible. At Yahoo, we're
focused on making daily habits more inspiring and
entertaining. That means we're constantly reviewing our
products and experiences and, in some cases, we have to
make tough decisions to no longer support a product. As
part of our ongoing effort to sharpen our focus, on July 31,
2014, Voices.Yahoo.com will be shut down; on August 15,
we will make the final Performance Payment before
Contributor.Yahoo.com closes. With the exception of
content you provided to Yahoo under a work for hire
license, or unless Yahoo arranges differently with you, we
will remove from Yahoo all content published through
Yahoo Contributor Network and rights for all of your Yahoo
Contributor Network content will revert to you.
We knowyou have a lot of questions. Please refer to this FAQ...” ( ) “...for
details.
It has been such an incredible privilege to share your
talents with the world over these past nine years.
Thank you, from the bottom of our hearts.”
Note: This message was signed by the YCN Team. I removed the FAQ link from the quoted post, as it is probably soon to be a dead link anyway! That is also the reason I copied the post into this text - the Facebook link is provided at the bottom of this article, but I fear it may also no longer exist in time.


Always Save Copies of Your Work!

I am happy that full rights to all the articles I published on the YCN platform have been returned to me. It took considerable effort, however, to ensure that I had copies of them. I had not kept any record of this work, thinking these articles would always be available on-line. Lesson learned! 


The Impact of Shutting Down YCN

Regrettably, with the closing of YCN, its past contributors will no longer be able to view the many comments garnered on the articles they have posted.  After August 15th our profiles there will likely just disappear, as though we never existed at all.  It is my understanding that we will no longer have access to the contributor forum, through which we have made many friends. These contacts will be lost, unless we have specifically made other arrangements for communication.  Links to YCN articles which I have provided in past posts here on this blog will no longer link to an article. (I will try to figure out how to remedy this in some other way.) I find all of this quite sad.

Yahoo Contributor Network, like many on-line writing platforms, has received criticism regarding low payment of their contributors, some editing complaints, and - most recently - this astounding closure.  I always found YCN to be a welcoming community and a wonderful introduction to the world of Internet writing.  I will miss it.  

Like the beginning of nearly every August I have ever experience however, today signifies an ending - but also a beginning.  

Farewell YCN - I'm off to new adventures.


My plan: Continue with this blog and ... just keep writing!

To see the Facebook post quoted above (if still viable), click on the following link:
Post by Yahoo Contributor Network

Did you ever publish with YCN - or do you know any other contributors (besides me)?

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